11 December 2008 @ 08:47 am
Do you like your body?  

Do you like your body?

That question's been going through my mind a lot these last couple of days. It's partly because of talk at home, partly because of university and the way the word is used there. Body is always political, a battleground or something that needs to be mapped and claimed by whoever.
It's talking about body in a disembodied form so that made me think about actual bodies.

Do you like your body? As it is now? What do you think about your own body, what's your relationship to your body?

I'd be happy to receive some opinions on that one.

I grew to hate my body, when I hit puberty. "I am a fat cow" was constantly at the back of my mind. To cement this view of myself my bio dad constantly pestered me to do more sports because my grandma's food and way of cooking would make me fat.

Truth was, and I only just realized that by looking at old pictures, that I wasn't fat. I wasn't exactly slim but I wasn't fat either. I was completely normal - and I only just realize that now a good ten years later.

When I started university I thought I was fat. I wasn't.
I grew heavy during my years of university. Bad eating habits combined with lack of sports and a severe case of hypothyroidsm.

Yet, when I was at uni, something else happened. I began to like my body. People were never saw my weight as an issue because they were looking at my personality rather than the size tag in my jeans.

A paradoxical thing happened: I gained weight and self-confidence at the same time.

I like my body as it is now. At least I like him a lot more than only ten years ago though I think almost everyone has body issues at that time in their lives.

I know I'm fat, I weigh a about 188 pounds/94 kgs - that's a lot for somebody who is only 5'8'/175cm. I have love handles. I have stretch marks on my hips and on my boobs.
My boobs don't stand to attention like maybe they should when I see pictures of naked women but then again, there is such a thing as gravity and you can't fight that one.

I actually like my breasts; I like the way they feel and the softness of the skin; I like them in a lacy bra and a low cut shirt because boy! I get served way faster than anyone else when I lean against the bar in just the right way ;)

I also like my calves since those are actually the slimmest part of me because I walk everywhere and hardly ever use the bus or a car.

I like my face best - if that is still part of my body because somehow I always think of the body as starting at shoulder level LOL - especially my eyes and my mouth.

My hair isn't all that bad either, apart from a few already greying strands.

So come on girls, let's have some self-adoration :D

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[identity profile] miniminkie.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:14 am (UTC)
I go through phases where I hate my body as I’ve put on weight. But there’s time when I like the fact I’ve put on weight because its given me great boobs. Before I was flat as an ironing board I mean it was like fried eggs. Now I have boobs and I love them.
I like my height now as well I’m only 4’11 everyone towers over me BUT that’s a good thing at 25 I still get asked if I’m over 18 ^_^
So all in all I think I’m pretty happy with my body well apart from my nose but that’s a different story.
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:18 am (UTC)
I can never really relate to the people wanting to have bigger boobs issue. Probably I've always had quite a rack and know all the disadvantages you have with them (i.e. try to find a decently priced bra that doesn't look like it belongs to your grandma; try to button down a normal-sized blouse, try to go running without a sports bra the flexibility of cement).
[identity profile] miniminkie.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:28 am (UTC)
When I didn’t have them it didn’t bother me, I’ve been one of those people who want a boob job. Now I have them I love them all the women in my family have big boobs my mums DD and my sister’s like an F cup. Ok so I’m not as big as them but I am now a D which is big for someone of my height.
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:31 am (UTC)
I'm a D cup as well...my mum has like A or B at the most I think haha

Sometimes I wonder where they came from ;)
[identity profile] sagittariusgirl.livejournal.com on December 12th, 2008 03:39 am (UTC)
i.e. try to find a decently priced bra that doesn't look like it belongs to your grandma

omg yes. I despise having to wear a bra that has 3-4 rows of hooks in the back and the straps are like an inch to two inches wide, and thus most have those little pads on the straps so that they dont hurt your shoulders.

I want my b's back!! the ones I had pre-baby
[identity profile] ayaneva.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 04:26 pm (UTC)
lol I get the "are you over 18" thing too and I just turned 25 on Saturday. The average age that people guess is 16.
[identity profile] miniminkie.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 05:23 pm (UTC)
People say oh thats a good thing and I'm like Not when you want a drink.
I also get alot of can I talk to your mum when I answer the door to my own house.
[identity profile] haylzee.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:32 am (UTC)
When I was younger I always worried because I thought I was too fat or whatever, and it's funny because when I look back now, at the time I wasn't fat at all, I was actually quite small, I just wasn't rake thin and back then to me, that meant fat.

Now, I just don't care lol. I don't know why but I just really don't care how I look. I hear people talk about going on diets and talking about how fat they are, and I'm just like hmm, so what. lol.

Nowadays I worry more about what the junk food that I eat (constantly) is costing me, and that it actually makes me feel physically yuck, like my system needs to be cleansed lol.

*drinks more Coke*

I am totally procrastinating ^__^
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:37 am (UTC)
I just wasn't rake thin and back then to me, that meant fat.

Well, doesn't that sound familiar to me O_o

Isn't it strange how long it takes us to see ourselves as we really are? Or at least an approximation to reality.

Luckily I was never really into junk food - my problem is that I eat too little (like once a day) and so my body stores everything (on my hips and ass) because it's like OMG when will I get calories again haha
[identity profile] haylzee.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:50 am (UTC)
lol yes that is actually a problem a lot of people I know have, and it is sometimes the case with me. I have such bad eating habits, some days I'll eat normally and there are days like today when it gets to be 4pm and I realize I haven't eaten a single thing, or had anything to drink so I'm dehydrated and running on nothing lol. So then at about 6pm I ate two chicken sandwiches and then a couple of hours later I had a chocolate bar, and that has been my diet today. :x

But what I'm saying is, I know it's bad but I still don't mind lol. The fat will be clinging for dear life and maybe when I'm old I'll be one of those ladies who needs the side of the house knocked out so that the truck can tow me away to the cattle scale. :P

[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:00 am (UTC)
I have been to a dietary consultation last year after my big abdominal surgery and the dietitian was horrified about my eating habits LOL

We seem pretty much alike - I hardly ever eat anything substantial till at least 2pm; before that I run on caffeine and nicotine XD
[identity profile] emseviltwin.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:41 am (UTC)
I'm in turmoil with my body at the moment but I'm slowly learning to love it. I would say again but I don't know if I have ever truely loved my body. I used to dance and exercise non stop but I am lazy now so I don't do anything like that. Now places are soft and squishy that used to always be muscle! Since the exercise never felt like work before it's hard to motivate myself to get fit again.

This weekend I was going through photos of myself when I was at my most depressed. I weight about 10kg more than I do now and tbh, I don't like the photos. But I think that's mainly because I look at them and remember how sad I was then.

I'm happier now but as I said- still just learning to love myself. My self confidence was really shaken this past year and stress caused me to loose a whole heap of weight. I definitely notice the difference and when I got home people noticed it too. They think I've put on some weight now, though in truth I haven't put on any weight at all since I got back. I have probably been unhealthy in that regard- in fact I know I have. My anxiety has lead me to do some bad things to try and keep control of that aspect of my life. But I'm learning to stop doing that too.


Hopefully as I get happier and stronger I'll stop being terrified of putting on the weight I lost this year.

I like my stomach and my hips. My stomach is nice and flat and I have abs! XD My breasts are nice too though they are pretty teeny. A little bigger might be nice! I guess they suit my frame though they've never gotten me served at a bar. I've been told my ass is very nice LOL! though in truth it's the area I'm most self conscious of (so really, people can complement me on it all they like). I'm unsure about my face but I would never change it because I look like my father who I miss so much. He gave me my jaw and my nose.
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:47 am (UTC)
I think I am blessed that my depression never warped my perception of my own body. It led me to take on weight but not that much actually.

I hate looking at old pictures of myself too - it's a weird feeling because I used to be so pretty then and I felt so ugly and that makes me mad. Mad at me and the world in general. Like, I had a body that deserved to be loved but never was.

Personally, I would kill to look like you, height, teeny boobs and all - not to mention the abs *pets lovehandles*
I think it's always easier to see oneself as another person because we don't get the whole picture but only a surface view of it.

But for all it's worth, I think you are extremely pretty, sexy and OMG SO GOOD LOOKING!
[identity profile] emseviltwin.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:52 am (UTC)
While I was depressed I wasn't really aware of my weight until a friend mentioned that her mother had noticed I put on weight. She said she meant it as a compliment but I was mortified! LOL

The control thing I feel about it now is something that has only happened this year really- I never had any issues with it when I was dancing, despite some rather harsh comments from my ballet teacher. I think that's because my anxiety has been worse than my depression this year. I find myself panicing over food- I feel anxious after meals and after eating junk food.

And thank you for saying those things about me. I wanted to mention that I certainly never noticed anything but beauty from you and your face is equally as amazing as your personality is- bright and pretty. XD

(ps- how cold is it lately? XD)
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:58 am (UTC)
Right now it's 1°C and it will be like that for the next week or so as well, maybe some snow but it's not likely it will stay.

I don't like that you're panicking over food - probably because my cousin has been battling against anorexia and bulimia for over 20 years. It's never enough to die but certainly not enough to live either.
Prepare to be spoiled silly and fed constantly when you're at my place <333
[identity profile] emseviltwin.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 08:59 am (UTC)
MILKA?

did that fic outline make ANY sense at all? lol
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:01 am (UTC)
Proper food! (and Milka for dessert if you want ;)

Honestly, I haven't had time to read it yet - I'm a horrible friend, I know *facepalm*
[identity profile] emseviltwin.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:02 am (UTC)
hahaahah no omg that is better than you have read it and you are just not talking about it because it is bad!

Milka and all sorts of other cakes. I'll take up smoking to cut through the sugar- I don't care!
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:05 am (UTC)
I have three fics to beta and my own still needs to be finished *headdesk*

I guess I will all print it out and do all that reading on the train.

I will bake you a chocolate overkill cake and feed it to you personally :D
[identity profile] emseviltwin.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:06 am (UTC)
eeek there is no hurry on my stuff while you're doing all that! LOL it can totally wait.

mmmmmmmm hand made and hand fed chocolate cake- I'm not complaining!
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:06 am (UTC)
My chocolate overkill cake earns his name ;)
[identity profile] emseviltwin.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:07 am (UTC)
LOL I'll never make it to London but I'll die happy! XD
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:08 am (UTC)
ROFL I doubt my food will kill you - I'm a good cook *puffs out chest*
[identity profile] emseviltwin.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:13 am (UTC)
hahaha I meant overeating! :P death by chocolate!
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:14 am (UTC)
how apt that icon is...

Think of every slice of cake as an addition to your cup size ;)
[identity profile] emseviltwin.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:16 am (UTC)
better make that cakeS then!
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:19 am (UTC)
You'll get Snow White cake if you want to :)
[identity profile] fangirl-07.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:34 am (UTC)
This is a tricky subject.

I am not that comfortable with my body, although I enjoy cooking and eating the results too much to seriously go on diet. ;)

My problems is that since I was 7 untill I was 17 I did ballet, jazz and tap, which ment many many hours a week of excercise. Sometimes, if we were preparing a special performance, we would practice even on Sundays! It's not as if I was your prototype ballet dancer. Hell no! I've never been really thin nor small. Seen many 1,75 m heigh with a size 41 feet ballerinas? But the thing is that as soon as I began university, quit dancing and entered the dorm with its horrible food, I gained weight, and it does not want to go away!
I really miss dancing, it was fun, gave me flexibility, endurance and strenght. Sometimes I find myself puzzled when I have to pick up something from the floor and damn! I can't bend in half LOL I've tried joining a gym, but I get sooooo bored!
The sad thing, is that I too saw myself as maybe not fat, but not thin back then. The irony!
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:41 am (UTC)
The irony indeed! I can relate to the missing the dancing. I took ballet classes for seven years too; not as seriously as you or Emily but it was good fun and I certainly was a lot more bendier back then.
The thing I miss most though is playing tennis :(
(Anonymous) on December 11th, 2008 09:56 am (UTC)
Oh my tennis! That was a nightmare for me! I took lessons for a year and the damn tennis balls had a tendency to hit my eyes! I swear there was some kind of gravity field disturbance that made them come after me! Or maybe it's that I was five and the racket was as big as me :P
[identity profile] fangirl-07.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 09:57 am (UTC)
Duh, that was me *blushes*
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 10:00 am (UTC)
ROFL I was actually a decent tennis player but then suddenly my dad stopped playing tennis and then, by and by everyone I knew in the club left and I had no more partners to play with :-/
[identity profile] fangirl-07.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 10:43 am (UTC)
Oh that sucks! Yeah that is the "bad" thing about sporst where you need an oponent.

As much as I sucked at tennis, I had fun though. We were a few school friends running behind the ball and we had fun. ;)
[identity profile] mnschoen.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 03:56 pm (UTC)
Yes. It took me three years and brushes with mental illness to decide that I like everything about me, including my slightly funny-looking teeth and my slightly odd-shaped ass.
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 14th, 2008 02:03 pm (UTC)
That's great - I wish more people could have an attitude like this to their own body.

How can an ass be oddly-shaped though?
[identity profile] x-nannerl-x.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 04:17 pm (UTC)
Well, the only thing I don't like about my body is it's weight (which I need to loose very soon because apparently I'm sensitive and it affects my hormones >__>) And yeah, I want to be able to wear all those nice clothes size -42
I also kind of have bunny teeth, but I don't really have a problem with that. I like my teeth because they are nice and white *grins* XD
Um, I like my eyes a lot and my hair.

o_o Thank you for posting this. I never really stop and think about what I like about my body, I guess it's a common thing. We all much more often only think about things we don't like XD
[identity profile] paraboobizarre.livejournal.com on December 14th, 2008 02:09 pm (UTC)
Bunny teeth are great! Just look at Bill ;)

Weight affects so many things so it's always good to get rid of it and I'm sure you can do it *hugs*
[identity profile] ayaneva.livejournal.com on December 11th, 2008 04:24 pm (UTC)
I like my body. Sometimes I wish I was a little taller but I actually love the fact that I'm kinda tiny, very nearly flat as a board up top, but at the same time I have hips and an ass . idk I think small breasts with a shapely bottom half are kind of sexy but I could be biased just because that's my own body type. And my knees are way less knobly than they were, although if I had to pick a body part that I like the least, it would be my knees. It's not so much that they're knobly, I guess, it's just that they bend in slightly. Like it's not straight up and down. Hard to explain. Everyone tells me that my knees look fine and they can't figure out what I'm going on about but I notice.

At least I finally grew into my feet and hands because WOW they were soooo not proportioned back in high school.

I do wish I had clearer skin on my face and that I didn't have scars from irritation bumps on my bikini line. My face looks OK with powder but it's such a pain in the ass to wear. I didn't even wear any makeup at all until a couple of years ago. Even now, it'll just be light powder, some lip gloss, and mascara. The bikini line bumps are kind of fugly, imo, but a lot of people have that, so I don't feel too awkward.

I was never comfortable wearing less than board shorts and a tankini top for swimming until this past summer when I needed a bathing suit and there weren't many options. I discovered that I actually looked cute (and everyone commented on it!) with a regular bikini top and boy shorts!

I like my teeth, even though I have a gap between the two front teeth. It's hereditary and we call it the Showell Family Gap. LOL A lot of people don't like it when they have gaps but I like mine. I do think I have a slight overbite and I wish that would go away, as well as one tooth on the bottom that's very slightly pushed further back than the others. It's not even really noticeable to most other people but I don't like it. It got crowded out by my wisdom teeth. I hate it because it's ruining what would otherwise be a set of perfectly straight teeth. :( I need to whiten them again too. I want them whiter.

My best body part? Everyone says I have pretty eyes but you can't really see them because I wear glasses. I think I look better with glasses anyway so whatever. I like my weight but I do wish I could get over 110lbs. I pretty much max out at 110lbs and I have to eat an extraordinary amount to even weigh that much. If I eat three average meals like everyone else, I hover at like 105/106. idk, I'm not really sure I have a favorite part.
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